Anyone who has built a house knows this feeling. It comes towards the end when you think you can never break through the wall that remains to see the light at the end of the tunnel. The euphoria of planning ; of actually seeing the construction grow under your eyes has long evaporated with the long struggle with labour, material, growing costs and changing ideas.
I didn't think it would happen with conducting a wedding. But this weekend was IT point when I just felt, somehow something will happen and I dont care anymore how. I just want it to get over and done with. And for me to regain some semblance of life.
And then today a few things happened.
- Suddenly a couple of friends turned up and cheered us up.For months we've had no visitors and I've hardly been home too; so this was really unexpected.
- I happened to see a bit of the movie Guru on TV. And Guru's/Ambani's indomitable spirit is really fantastic.
- I got sent a 100 point checklist for weddings by mail. My first reaction, was Oh God NO, I dont need this.
But it left me laughing so much, Im thoroughly refreshed. It must have been put together by someone who has been through a lot. Obviously a Brahmin. Those poor souls go through so many more tortuous rituals and formalities , besides do s and donts
' Brother in law involvement in packing
'specify songs- NO TAPPANKUTHU SONGS'
'Disco if reqd provide them at untouchable height'
'Fix two persons to settle any dispute of any nature. Dont allow any other crowd.
For some points he mentions, one person fix.... all others keep quiet.
God does work in mysterious ways. And one of them is to bring together two families with different outlooks so that you learn to tolerate other viewpoints, cultivate diplomacy and really grow from where you've been for so many complacent years.
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Funny how having to organize just 3 kids' b'day parties within a span of 4 months drains the energy out of me and leaves me wanting for inspiration (and extra memory as I forgot my husband's b'day amidst all this fun).
Drink lots of tea--that is my answer/escapist ritual to everything. And take solace in the fact that some of us others will be in or close to our 60s (at least, we had better be in our 60s) when our kids will be thinking of getting married. How many more cups of tea will I need then?
I came here via Indrani's blogroll. I liked the last para of the post..."And one of them is to bring together two families with different outlooks so that you learn to tolerate other viewpoints, cultivate diplomacy and really grow from where you've been for so many complacent years." As much profound as true. Tough times bring their own inspiration, usually for those who are calm and able to soak it all in.
Hullo...it's been sometime since I saw your last post. it's still the same. Where are the new ones? I'm waiting to read you!
HI Malathi, just read Melvin's post on Obama- sent by a friend . Like his very intelligent laid back look at everything. A refusal to succumb to the obvious.
Yes, you will need lots of tea -and pills at 60:-)
Pradeep, sometimes I don't know whether I write just for the feel of the words :-). Thanks. Sometimes its all hard to live up to.
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