Anyone who has built a house knows this feeling. It comes towards the end when you think you can never break through the wall that remains to see the light at the end of the tunnel. The euphoria of planning ; of actually seeing the construction grow under your eyes has long evaporated with the long struggle with labour, material, growing costs and changing ideas.
I didn't think it would happen with conducting a wedding. But this weekend was IT point when I just felt, somehow something will happen and I dont care anymore how. I just want it to get over and done with. And for me to regain some semblance of life.
And then today a few things happened.
- Suddenly a couple of friends turned up and cheered us up.For months we've had no visitors and I've hardly been home too; so this was really unexpected.
- I happened to see a bit of the movie Guru on TV. And Guru's/Ambani's indomitable spirit is really fantastic.
- I got sent a 100 point checklist for weddings by mail. My first reaction, was Oh God NO, I dont need this.
But it left me laughing so much, Im thoroughly refreshed. It must have been put together by someone who has been through a lot. Obviously a Brahmin. Those poor souls go through so many more tortuous rituals and formalities , besides do s and donts
' Brother in law involvement in packing
'specify songs- NO TAPPANKUTHU SONGS'
'Disco if reqd provide them at untouchable height'
'Fix two persons to settle any dispute of any nature. Dont allow any other crowd.
For some points he mentions, one person fix.... all others keep quiet.
God does work in mysterious ways. And one of them is to bring together two families with different outlooks so that you learn to tolerate other viewpoints, cultivate diplomacy and really grow from where you've been for so many complacent years.