Random stuff

Clutter in a house is a sign of insecurity.
You feel you may need this thing some time. And you wont be able to afford to buy it again, so you keep it. And this and that for ever.

Why does advice grate so much? Because your thoughts are not there yet?

Women who dress well dont keep their houses well and vice versa. Long time theory of mine. Meena says, each finds expression of their creativity somewhere. If the woman feels good about herself, then she concentrates on her appearance . Otherwise on her house.

Sailing Down the Flow

I went in with a very open mind. Not even just open, ; absolutely willing to go with the flow and say yes yes.Whatever they asked. I wasnt sure what I wanted, so what could I ask for anyway.

And they asked very little, but were saying yes to yes to me.

So somewhere Something is looking after me.

cheeni kum

Jeevan me namak bhi nahi ya cheeni, tho kya karenge?
Watch cheeni kum.

Not bad, kitchdi hindi remains after 30 years. Must be the effect of going around in Hydrebad saying' yey kithnaa hai? in pronounced south indian text book hindi.
As Meena says, we have to say maii vs bleating me like a goat.

Watching cheeni kum alone is quite an experience. I can catch more of the conversation. I can appreciate lovely Tabu delighfully lit by Pc.sreeram. I can hum cheeni kum to the familiar tune in Mouna ragam. I can revel in the mature love story which has no lovey dovey stuff but the acerbic wit of Amitabh/the writer. I can take delight in them recognising each other and coming together so quickly with little hem hawing. I can appreciate her non-coy attitude.

I like the shades Amitabh turns when he battles with his father-in-law. Its nice to see this ordinary man who seems just Amitabh instead of the super hero who can turn the dice. I like the confdience and sureness of Tabu. She rags him about this age instead of bothering about the touchy male ego. And makes him run:-))

Its a very unreal movie except for the two lead characters. All the others are parodies, exaggerated to give them 'character' like the too adult 'Sexy'. A tad boring at times, especially the second half but can be forgiven easily.Because its so light.

To be happy make others happy says the book. But first make yourself happy with the little things.
With jyada cheeni

Glam Weddings

In a wedding there seem to be so many things to remember and focus on. And what you focus on depends on you.
Some people focus on the guests – giving them the best food, as much attention as they can shower, little take home gifts and how people can worry that they didn’t receive any of these little things!
Some people can focus on the wedded couple and their immediate family and how glamorous they look and pose endlessly for photographs.
Some people delegate the jobs and keep themselves relatively unstressed. Others concentrate on all aspects and blow out their minds.
Some people want to put up a great show for other people and don’t mind the debt they run up. Their image has been suitably enhanced.
Some people want to keep as tight a rein on the expenses as possible cutting corners wherever possible which makes other people queasy. And gives everyone a great talking point.
Weddings are actually great talking points. And people who are conducting one disagree so much with others that have gone before. Theirs is going to be better. And pleasanter.

But in the end it doesn’t seem to be how about how much you spend. But how much you can satisfy other people’s egos. Whether groom’s family, your own family or the guests. Whether they all feel important enough.

Old Friends

More than three decades ago, we were connected - at school. We lost touch- and how much! Maybe we met on a couple of occasions for a couple of hours.
But we decided to go ahead and meet- full scale- spending 2 days together. A risk in any company :-)
But what a great time we had. Like Meena says, some of the best days of our lives.
We talked non stop. Mostly about ourselves and our lives and families. There was absolutely no question of what the other two would think of me. Even when we were demanding cheesecake at 12 in the night and passing the coke bottle around. Not one of the three was delicate about food or thought the word diet. Which made everyone so comfortable. ))) Licking fingers politeness. Sprawling on beds and hitching up legs. No thought of looks or clothes. It was be yourself time.
You didn’t have to pretend to be anyone. There were no images of mother, wife, friend, professional, to be lived up to.
Oh we dug up the past and really raked through it. so often one of us had tears in her eyes, remembering some hurt. We hauled our parents over the coals. Look at what they did to us.
I thought it bad for the system to be remembering so much. And the continued feeling of hurt.
But now there is a delightful feeling of lightness, of discovering a great bond. It feels so so good. How wonderful it is to discover interesting women – who love you.